Since male culture is essentially hierarchical and that hierarchy is the result of bullying and intimidation, women who do not submit to intimidation are a threat to the hierarchy.
Perhaps males who refuse to be bullied are similarly perceived as a threat to “good order.” What is good order? Unquestioning compliance. That, it would seem, goes beyond simple obedience. Which brings me back to the perception that the culture of obedience (coerced compliance) is inherently destructive, not just of the personnel, but of any enterprise they undertake.
Too big (size) fails and so does too much force (energy). Is there an acceptable amount of coercion in human relations?