I have never felt responsible for how others behave towards me, nor for how I behave towards them. Is that because I instinctively rejected my mother’s claim that she took us to the U.S. for my benefit? Or is it because I learned early that asking for anything was an invitation to be denied?
For males here in the southern states, the importance of behaving so as not to be excluded seems to be inculcated through organized sports from which everyone seems to come away with an inferiority complex. Are team sports tHe vehicle for perpetuating subordination? I don’t think the participants are aware of that agenda. Certainly, parents are convinced that participating in team sports builds self-confidence. But, if one is building something that ought to be present to begin with, does that not suggest something has been destroyed?
I feel terribly lucky to have had a narcissistic parent who did not know me.