Insider/outsider culture

Sometimes, when I wake in the night, I have what I consider really good ideas. But, I go back to sleep, hoping I will remember in the morning. The insider/outsider was not actually a middle of the night thing. I had come to realize a couple of days ago that the spouse, who was definitely born an insider (son of the American Revolution and all that) had been treated like an outsider most of his life. It is what we have, unbeknownst to us, in common.

What I had in the night was a further thought that still escapes me. But, in the mean time, for me being an outsider was/is entirely normal. I was not born here and never had any expectation of being an insider. African Americans and Hispanics and second generation Asians do not have that rational explanation for their continued exclusion (designation as outsiders). That is both unfair and unfortunate.

However, it seems rather unlikely that the persistent dichotomy will ever be eliminated. Because the two sides have a different perspective. Outsiders (migrants and immigrants) consider their status to be reflective of their own experience/doing. Insiders, on the other hand, depend on outsiders to define themselves. Insiders need outsiders. So, even if there are none at hand, they will create them.

Why are insiders (excluders) not self-defined? Why do they need someone else to tell them who they are? Is there some developmental deficit or is the sense of insufficiency culturally imposed? Certainly, many religions promote the us vs. them agenda. Does that mean it is just a component of the urge to exercise dominion over one’s own kind?

Outsiders, I think, are gregarious, but not reckless. All humans are born gregarious, I think. So, is inhibition imposed or, again, the result of some developmental deficit? My mother-in-law tried to impose insiderism on her son, but it was too late.

ADDENDUM:
The outsider is like the fence that does not know it is supposed to keep people out.

P.S. It is no wonder that people are not aware of function. Modern dictionaties do not define words in terms of the activities or relationships they represent. Instead, they are self-referential So, for example, “insiderism” is how insiders behave.