On Status

Status is different, depending on whether we regard it from the perspective of the recipient or the donor. It is not a fair exchange.

I have been puzzled by people who seek status apparently above all else. That is, they are apparently willing to do anything that gets them recognition as being somehow exceptional. Although the status is sometimes signaled by a tangible symbol, medal or ribbon, status is essentially immaterial. Perhaps it is good for the soul? Perhaps it assuages a persistent self-doubt that’s been instilled by a history of abusive parenting?

Whatever its ultimate effect, the reality is that assigning status is cheap compensation for whatever the individual has accomplished. It costs the donor nothing — no effort, no blood, sweat and tears. And that, I would argue is what makes it so attractive as a reward for service. Status is evidence that somebody has got something for nothing.

Personification of the Deity

What does the personification of a deity, assigning human characteristics and attributes to a God, accomplish? I used to think the purpose was to provide a substitute to compensate for the miserable conditions and deprivations visited upon some humans by their parents. “God loves you, so don’t worry about the shits who participated in your coming into being.”
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On Abuse

This comment was originally posted on a diary by a father whose eight year old daughter, a victim of rape, thought she should ask him for forgiveness. Perhaps for having been disobedient?
I think I am getting closer to the core of this issue.
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Sexual Abuse Means What

The suggestion is going ’round that the identification and opprobrium heaped on some mega serial abusers is evidence that society’s toleration for such behavior is waning. Right! And the election of an admitted abuser to the presidency means what?

From where I sit, all abusers, regardless of the characteristics of their victims, are tolerated because they provide a service to the non-abusers. In comparison, nice guys don’t finish last, but look much better when there are bad guys around. It’s sort of like “what would the cops do if there were no burglars to catch?”